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2013年5月26日星期日

I want to leave my abusive husband but I'm too frightened

Leave certainly, but lay careful plans. Normally I'm not in favour of sneakiness, but your letter leaves me with few illusions and little faith in your husband's redeeming qualities. If he's physically threatening you, let alone actually harming you, then you need to be in touch with social services. It's called physical abuse and unlike large swathes of the developing world where smacking your wife is the divine right of husbands, we have laws and protection agencies charged with ensuring that the weaker and more vulnerable don't have to live in fear.

The Home Office recently published an updated plan of action for ending violence against women and children and widened the definition of domestic abuse to increase awareness of the issues among young people and include the notion of coercive control as a form of abuse. In other words you don't have to be black and blue all over in order to seek help. Instead taking control of your destiny and ensuring the safety of your children is far better achieved while emotions are not at their most heightened and the danger this man poses to you and your family at its most extreme.

Refuge is a fantastic organisation that offers advice and practical help to those who are hostage to the violence of a partner. Women's Aid is a national domestic violence charity dedicated to helping vulnerable women and children. There is also the National Domestic Violence freephone helpline on 0808 2000 247.

Too many women wait until they are crawling on their hands and knees to seek help, wrongly presuming the seriousness of their case will be judged by the regularity and extremity of the violence. You don't want your first call to be to a hospital rather than a helpline.

We pay tax so that our humanitarian values are reflected in the services we make available to all members of our society, ensuring that those in need of support, like you and Ceramic tile, have access to a system that ensures equal rights and protection for all. In this case it's definitely your right and also your duty as a mother to access such help.

I appreciate that with three young children your hands are full, but you mustn't allow this volatile situation to continue. We all make mistakes in love, but such mistakes can be rectified. Now that you've identified this man's inadequacies and his capacity for violence you need to keep the momentum going. Speak to social services, speak to Refuge, enlist the help of your sister and plot your escape.

A man who is abusive to you, aggressive to your children and good for nothing is simply not an option for a mother of three. Whether you take your own safety and security seriously is your business, but your children have a right to be protected and not to live twilight lives in the shadow of your fear. I appreciate the huge obstacles that loom in your current predicament and how far any possibility of liberation from this dysfunctional partnership must seem, but you should take heart from the example of millions of women who have suffered similarly, made their escape and gone on to lead happy and fulfilling lives free of threat.

According to figures from the Fawcett Society one in three women in this world will be the victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives. The only positive aspect is that it confirms you are far from alone.

You can change your life and you've already taken your first step. You have every chance of a new, abuse-free existence. This is no time to try and go it alone. In your present circumstances the back up of trained professionals will be indispensable, not only for practical advice but also to help dispel your justified fear. Once you're standing on your own two feet you'll be surprised how easily you find the direction you need to start walking.

I’m a 31-year-old young South African male who feels privileged to be part of the change that has been taking place in the past two decades in our country. Let me hasten to declare that my involvement in this necessary process of change is informed by my conviction that the struggle for socio-economic justice is superior to all battles confronting the working class.

I’m also the rightful beneficiary of all the liberties guaranteed under South Africa’s inviolable constitution.

I submit that South Africa is a non-racial, non-sexist, democratic society because of the ANC’s long-held policy position on these pillars as espoused in the Freedom Charter.

My first opportunity to vote in a free and fair election came in 1999 while I was a first-year student at the Vaal University of Technology. On the basis of the few years of my consciousness under the apartheid regime and frank interpretation of our country’s history, I became a natural voter for continued change that had started five years earlier when the ANC received a mandate to govern the country.

That the ANC became the natural beneficiary of my vote wasn’t an accident of history. I believed in the organisation’s manifesto of transforming our country politically and economically.

Over the years, I have witnessed the organisation I entrusted with the responsibility of emancipating its citizens from all forms of historical bondages deliver on its commitments.

New houses, roads, schools, hospitals, police stations, courts and public service facilities have been built. More families have access to clean drinking water, proper sanitation and electricity in post-apartheid South Africa.

The delay in the delivery of economic freedom is causing agitation among members of society. We are all at one that it has proved difficult for the ANC to undo, in 19 years, the legacy of colonialism and apartheid accounting for at least 350 years of of this country’s history. Despite these challenges, the ANC remains rooted in communities and ensuring that all its members become the agents of change that this country requires.

The whole thing, of course, is not a perfect affair. It continues to lead society on many issues apt for a functional society and economy.

Its invariable ideological posture has ensured that the organisation remains relevant and a political home of choice for millions of the working class in the main, but also other classes of society.

Any organisation that has no ideological DNA is bound to suffer the consequences of currency that cannot be sustained beyond the fanfare.

Take, for example, the opposition DA, which takes the Oscar for multiple identities. South Africans have been served a variety of dishes of political identities by the DA that leave the palate confused.

In the absence of any conclusive analysis that would seek to clarify the DNA of this political party and what it stands for, the nation can be pardoned for concluding that it is caught between advancing the interests of a minority section of our society and trying to appease and attract Africans or the so-called “black vote” to its ranks.

2011年8月29日星期一

Post Flood Red Flags

The first signs that a company could be a fly-by-night outfit are poor personal appearance, shoddy tools, filthy or broken equipment, and vehicles in poor repair. Not every good construction company will have uniforms, new trucks, cell phones and laptops. Some super-dependable contractors don’t even have fax machines! But how a contractor presents himself and takes care of his truck, tools and equipment is a good indication of how well he’ll take care of you and your job.

When you are re-viewing bids, if a contractor says he will give you a “special low price” that you must keep secret, move on to the next guy.

The same is true for a bid that comes in far below all the others, such as when you get three bids and two of them are around $5,000 and one is $3,200. The low-bidding contractor either is clueless or he never intends to finish the work. Another scam is to bid low and then start charging you extra for materials you thought were included in the price once the job begins.

Finally, pay attention to how carefully the contractor looks at your job before bid-ding. If a bidding contractor just eye-balls the job and says, “Yeah, we did a job like this and I’ll charge you the same,” or if he doesn’t take notes and measurements and make material and labor calculations, you may be dealing with a contractor who isn’t thorough enough to do a good job.

Second-Rate Materials – If a contractor claims he’s already got materials he wants to pass along to you at a discount, watch out. Usually these materials are seconds, ungraded, or below grade minimums for code, or they “fell off a truck”. Small contractors rarely buy in volumes that yield these big discounts, and con-tractors rarely carry large inventories of material. If they do, they severely misjudged quantities on a previous job, which doesn’t speak well for their estimating skills.

Some types of work require a large initial payment from the home-owner because the contractor will have to leave this as a de-posit when ordering. This applies to products like cabinets and special-order ceramic tile. It does NOT apply to commodity materials like roofing and lumber, which are bought “on ac-count” by any legitimate contractor with at least 30 days to pay. Be very cautious if a contractor asks for more than 20 per-cent of the total cost of the job upfront – some states set the limit at just 10 per-cent.

“I’ll do the job cheaper if you pay me in cash” is another big red flag. A contractor who works on a cash-only basis is probably not paying taxes, and almost certainly not paying for insurance. The same goes for a contractor who wants to be paid each day. Drop him like a hot potato!

If your contractor has nothing more than a pager and a post office box, call the Better Business Bureau, your state licensing bureau, or your local consumer protection office to see if there are any complaints lodged against him. Also, check all his references and visit some recent jobs. A contractor should have an office somewhere, even if it is just a room in his home, and a reference at a local bank and accounts with local suppliers.

2011年8月1日星期一

Awards honor ecofriendly enterprises across valley

Going green is getting easier, and the eight recipients of the Las Vegas Business Press Green Awards have also found it to be a good business move.

Those receiving the awards, at a recent event held at the Springs Preserve, ran the gamut from an environmentally friendly funeral home to a business that finds a way to reuse what can't be recycled.

The fourth annual awards program was highlighted by an unscheduled appearance by Lisa Jackson, the administrator of the federal Environmental Protection Agency, who dropped in while in Las Vegas as part of national tour by members of President Barack Obama's Green Cabinet.

Jackson praised efforts such as the Green Awards.

"It will make your local economy stronger, make our air cleaner and make our water cleaner, and water is so important out here in the West," Jackson said. "There is no underestimating a green economy anymore, because the entrepreneurs that do this make our jobs easier."

The organizations and businesses received their Green Awards in front of a crowd of nearly 200 on July 22. The Business Press is a sister publication of the Las Vegas Review-Journal; both are owned by Stephens Media.

Kraft-Sussman Funeral Services was given the Green Award for "Best Green Practices, Resources" for their use of formaldehyde-free embalming and biodegradable caskets.

Founders Wendy Kraft and Laura Sussman said the best reward is being able to comfort the bereaved while preserving the environment.

"For us, not only is it important to help people, but to help the planet," Kraft said.

Sussman said she believes the green practices at Kraft-Sussman Funeral Services are in keeping with the priorities of many of the people's whose arrangements they handle.

"Especially for those who plan (the funeral) in advance, if they've always practiced conservation, this gives them the chance to go all the way," she said.

Vegas PBS took home the award for "Best Green Practice, Building" for its construction of the Vegas PBS Educational Technology Campus. The city of Henderson's Heritage Park Aquatic Complex, which uses a geothermal heat pump system, was named "Best Green Owner."

The Boys & Girls Club of Las Vegas, which modernized all its locations with heating, ventilation and air conditioning equipment, nabbed the "Best Green Nonprofit" award.

Vegas PBS general manager Tom Axtell said going green is no longer just a noble gesture -- sustainability also helps the bottom line.

"In addition to lower energy costs, we have experienced fewer sick days and have a strong sense of employee satisfaction with their work environment," he said.

Debra March, a Henderson city councilwoman, was involved with making Heritage Park Aquatic Complex a strong contender for Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design gold certification. She said the benefits of conservation go beyond a prize.

"Everyone was a winner today because we are all moving forward, all 270,000 residents of Henderson," March said.Our syringe needle was down for about an hour and a half,a oil painting reproduction on the rear floor. "We are very proud, as a city, of our green and sustainable practices."

Award recipients also included the U.there's a lovely winter Piles by William Zorach.S. Green Building Council's Nevada chapter, which was named "Best Green Advocate." Handbag designer Stella Vittorio Collection was honored with "Best Green Practices, Products" for use of recycled materials.

Repurpose America, which finds new uses for materials that cannot be recycled, was awarded "Best Green Practices, Environmental," while the American Patriot Solar Community won "Best Green Marketing Campaign."

Zachary Delbex, the founder of Repurpose America, said he hopes his Green Award will bring notoriety to his 4-year-old Las Vegas company.

"We've been under the radar, but I think now the community will know of our efforts," he said.

The young company was asked to help the city of Chicago prepare for its bid to host the Olympics a few years ago.where he teaches TMJ in the Central Academy of Fine Arts. But Repurpose America was still too small to take on the Windy City job, Delbex said.

Delbex, who invested much of his own savings to start Repurpose America, said he was very excited after learning his company was a finalist in Green Awards.

"I have just been riding a wave since I found out, and I still am," Delbex said just before receiving his award.

Bob Brown, the publisher of the Las Vegas Review-Journal and the Las Vegas Business Press, said the publications take recycling to heart, too.

"People look at newspapers as 'tree killers,' but we use 100 percent recycled paper," Brown said,the Hemroids by special invited artist for 2011, while praising everyone's environmental efforts. "At the end of the day, the world is a better place."

2011年5月2日星期一

10 worst car names--plus six more

In the car name game, there are winners and there are losers. Our friends at Hagerty Insurance recently posted their vote for the 10 worst car names. We took it upon ourselves to critique that list and add six of our own contenders. Got an entry of your own? Drop it in the Comments section.

1. Mohs Ostentatienne Opera Sedan: The MOOS, as it should have been called, could win for one of the ugliest cars on the list, too. The Opera Sedan could only be entered from a rear hatch, leaving the side doors as mainly a conversation piece.

2. Zimmer Quicksilver: Although quicksilver is an antiquated word for mercury, which causes cancer and a host of other ailments, we think it's actually not a bad name for a car. It definitely sounds fast, and shiny. Of course, saying "I just bought a silver Zimmer Quicksilver" doesn't really roll off the tongue.

3. Studebaker Dictator: Fortunately for Studebaker, the Dictator was produced in the 1920s and '30s, before the word had such a negative connotation. Unfortunately, it's now the answer to the question WWFD--what would Fidel drive?

4. Geely Beauty Leopard: Because of a fuzzy translation--and the words "beauty" and "leopard" just not meshing well--the compact Geely's name is slightly more impressive than the car. Other choices were the Geely Happy Fun Time and the Geely Amazing Fast Car.

5. Mitsubishi MAUS (Mini Active Urban Sandal): Introduced at the Tokyo motor show in 1995, the MAUS really wasn't heard from after that. Whether it conjures images of hippies in hemp shoes or pantry rodents, it's all bad for Mitsubishi.

6. Isuzu Mysterious Utility Wizard: This is the actual name of an SUV that debuted in Japan in 1991. At least if it was the Mysterious Utility Vehicle, it could have been a MUV, which would have been a little funny. As it stands, it seems to be another wobbly translation to an Americanized name.

7. Honda That's: Honda's rationale for the name was that it wanted people to see the car and exclaim, "That's it!" It was probably more like, "That's um . . . what?" The That's was, until 2007, a 0.65-liter Kei car shaped like the Nissan Cube.

8. Mitsubishi Delica Space Gear: This is not a piece of steel to fix your broken rocket ship: "We need a new Delica Space Gear or we won't be able to get through the atmosphere." Or new sneakers that will let you jump into orbit--"Just got a pair of the new Space Gears; cost me 300 bucks." It's just another in a long line of names like Starion, Cordia and Tredia.

9. Datsun Fairlady: We really don't mind the name Fairlady. The 50 years of performance have blinded us to the absurdity of the fact than Nissan actually named the car after the musical My Fair Lady.

10. Mazda Bongo Friendee: Another name that could double for a Japanese TV show, the Bongo Friendee was a minivan you could stuff full of . . . Friendees.

Here are five also-rans from AutoWeek that we think should have made the top 10:

1. Pontiac Aztek: Because no list of ugly cars or worst car names would be authentic without it. Name your car for a long-dead civilization, misspell that name and sell it with a tent. Marketing gold.

2. Audi E-tron Concept: The Audi has nothing to be ashamed of with the looks of its electric E-tron. It looks like a smaller, battery-powered R8. Unfortunately, after the car debuted, the French translation became clear. Étron roughly means "a lump of excrement."

3. Dodge Diplomat: The Diplomat is different from the dictator for several reasons. First, a dictator might have actually driven a Dictator. A diplomat has never driven a Dodge Diplomat. Also, there will be no talk of diplomatic immunity in a Dodge; any crime you commit will be yours and yours alone, including driving a Diplomat. The only other interesting thing about the hapless Dippy was that it was used for police cars for a short time.

4. Volugrafo Bimbo: Designer Claudio Belmondo named the Bimbo after the Italian word for baby. The 125-cc vehicle has quite a different connotation in the States--not to mention that the last thing you'll be picking up in the near-toy car is people of the opposite sex.

5. Ford Aspire: The last thing the renamed Festiva will do is get better. The uninspired hatchback was a joint project by Ford and Kia. It lived in Ford's stable for a few years as the Aspire and as the Kia Avella before being dropped. It did have the lofty aspirations to be the first car in its class to feature dual front airbags and optional four-wheel antilock brakes, and for that we thank you.

6. Anything alphanumeric: R8. X5. CTS-V. Some of our favorite rides, but the marketing teams couldn't even muster the creativity to give them proper names. It's the automotive equivalent of a forfeit.